Birthing Brihte: A Journey of Rising, Revolting, and Reclaiming
For as long as I can remember, I’ve watched women bury themselves—bury their desires, their passions, their dreams—all in the pursuit of pleasing everyone else. I grew up surrounded by this: women who were disapproved of or dismissed, women who sacrificed their light to keep others comfortable. And, without realizing it, I became one of them.
As a young adult, I devoted myself to being the version of me that the world would approve of. I appeased the men in my life, tiptoed around my own worries, and silenced my thoughts. I became the “good girl,” ensuring that everyone else was fine, while quietly crumbling inside. I conformed to what was expected of me—working mundane jobs, staying in toxic relationships, and holding onto shallow friendships—all while losing pieces of myself.
At one point, it became too much. The burden of trying to be everything for everyone else crushed me to the point where I wanted to be done. Done with it all. I felt like I was drowning, unsure if I even wanted to keep paddling.
And then, my saving grace appeared.
The Moment It Changed
When I became a mother, something inside me shifted. My first daughter was born, and two years later, another. They brought with them a wave of empowerment I’d never felt before—a desire to live differently, not just for them but for me. I wanted to rise. I wanted to be someone spectacular.
But for a long time, I still didn’t pursue that feeling. I stayed stuck in the same cycles because I didn’t yet believe I could break free. Until one day, I found myself sitting in a gloomy basement at a soul-sucking job, folding laundry, completely depleted. And then a question pierced through the fog of monotony:
Is this how you want to lead your girls?
The answer roared through my body with absolute clarity: Fuck no.*
From that moment forward, I committed to change—not for perfection, not for approval, but because I owed it to myself and to the two little women watching me.
The Journey of Becoming
It hasn’t been easy. The journey has been anything but smooth. It’s been stormy, chaotic, and full of moments where I’ve wondered if I could keep going. I’ve drowned. I’ve been dragged back to life. I’ve paddled to shore, barely surviving, while sharks circled, tempting me to give up. But I didn’t.
I’ve kept going. Kept trying. Kept seeking to be better, do better, and see better. I’ve learned that I am both my biggest problem and my greatest solution. The same cycles I allowed to hold me captive are the very ones I’m breaking to set myself free.
Some things, I’ve mastered. Some, I’m still learning. But the most profound truth I’ve come to understand is this: I don’t need to be perfect. I just need to be willing.
Choosing Myself
I’ve started to uncover what it means to truly be. To walk authentically in my own path. To trust my desires. To say fuck yes* when it feels right and fuck no* when it doesn’t.
I’m not here to please the world. I’m here to please myself because I believe that’s what God intended us to do. We weren’t created to live for others’ approval. We were created to live fully, freely, and unapologetically.
I’ve made mistakes. I’ve carried shame for my upbringing, my past relationships, and my choices. But those stories don’t define me. They’ve shaped me, yes, but they don’t dictate who I am or who I’m becoming.
We get to choose. We get to decide how the world sees us. We become who we want to become.
The Birth of Brihte
This is how Brihte was born—from a deep, soul-level fuck yes* that told me I was meant to lead women differently. I’m here to guide women and mothers to raise themselves, to raise their children, and to create a new path—not out of perfection or knowing it all, but out of the raw, messy beauty of transformation.
Through my own story, I want to show that a different way is possible. That we can rise, revolt, and reclaim who we are. That we can break the cycles that have held us and heal generations moving forward.
This isn’t just about me. This is about all of us creating ripples that transform the world.
I’m not here because I have it all figured out. I’m here because I’m willing to try. To lead. To rise.
Welcome to Brihte. Let’s light the way together.
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